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Smoky Mountain Pregnancy Care Center has services and programs to support mom, dad and the baby and you, too. We offer assistance with community referrals, education about questions guys face during the pregnancy and classes to help guys transition into fatherhood.

Unexpected Fatherhood

If you’re a young man and recently learned that you are going to become a father, this could be a confusing time for you. It’s completely normal to have lots of different thoughts and feelings, and it will take a long time to get used to the idea of becoming a father. This guide will help you think through some of the issues you are facing. When you find out you are going to be a father, you might feel:


If you’re having difficulty dealing with any of these feelings, it may help to talk with the woman carrying the baby (whether or not she’s your partner), because she may be feeling many of the same things. If communication with her is difficult, it may help to talk with a health care provider, parent/guardian or another trusted adult. You can help during the pregnancy:

Communicate – Talk with the future mother of your child about her feelings and fears – she may be having some of the same thoughts as you. Give her a chance to let you know how she’s feeling and spend time listening to what she has to say.

Be sensitive to her physical condition and emotional needs Understand that she may be moody or physically uncomfortable at times.

Make it clear that you are in this together. Let her know that you want to be as involved in the pregnancy as possible. If she has not already done so, go with her to talk to her parents. It may also be helpful for you to go with her to her medical appointments.

Attend childbirth and parenting classes. You will learn a lot in such classes that can help you to be a better father to your child and partner to your spouse or girlfriend.

Plan Ahead – Think about the financial needs of raising a child and start saving money. Consider finding a part-time job to help pay for childcare expenses. Babies and children need clothing, food, and equipment such as a crib and stroller. When they are older they will have more expenses. Also, think about your career goals and whether or not you have to stay in school to achieve them.

If you as a man, have been involved in an abortion before this pregnancy, you may want to learn more about help for men who have been part of an abortion in their past. You may just need help from another man to spur you own to fatherhood. Here’s a couple of links that can be your first steps.

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